Navigating Writing Conferences as an Introvert

As I prepare to go to Readercon next week, this topic is heavily on my mind.

Speaking personally, as an introvert, attending writing conferences can be both exhilarating and exhausting. They offer invaluable opportunities for learning, networking, and gaining insights into the publishing world. Here are strategies to make the most of a writing conference as an introvert:

Preparation is Key: Familiarize yourself with the conference schedule and plan your agenda beforehand. Ask yourself questions such as “What are my key writing goals right now?” and “what writers/agents/editors would I be truly sad if I missed connecting with?”. In this way you can create two schedules. One with your “must attend” – sessions that align with your priorities – and then one with more sessions that align with broader interests and goals. Having a structured plan can alleviate anxiety and provide a sense of control, and having two levels of the schedule can enable you to cut back when mental energy lags but ensures you do not miss sessions that are important to you.

Small Group Settings: I personally really enjoy kaffeklasches where you interact with a writer editor or agent in a relatively low pressure casual conversation. I also look for smaller workshops or breakout sessions where you can engage in more intimate discussions. These settings often facilitate deeper connections and meaningful interactions with fellow writers and speakers, which can make connecting in less structured settings easier.

Networking with Intent: Quality over quantity is key. Instead of trying to meet everyone, focus on making genuine connections with a few individuals. Approach conversations with authenticity. It doesn’t matter if you are not the center of all conversation, only that when you do contribute it is something you genuinely feel or think.

Take Breaks: It’s okay to take breaks from the crowd. Retreat to a quiet corner or outdoor space to recharge and reflect. I often find out where the nearest cafe is so I can sit and reflect on what I have learned.

Utilize Online Platforms: If in-person truly is too much for you, then many conferences offer virtual components or social media groups. Participate in online discussions, join virtual workshops, and connect with attendees digitally. This can provide a more comfortable environment for engagement, or a way to dip your toe in the water of writer conference attendance.

Self-Care: Remember to prioritize self-care throughout the conference. Get adequate rest, stay hydrated, and nourish yourself with nutritious food. Taking care of your physical and emotional well-being will help you stay present and engaged.

Introverts bring their own set of strengths to writing conferences, such as keen observation, thoughtful reflection, and deep introspection. Do not under-value what you bring. Instead, embrace these qualities and approach the conference experience at your own pace, focusing on meaningful connections and personal growth.

How do you deal with writers conferences (as an introvert, or extrovert, or any other ‘difference’? Thoughts and suggestions always welcome in the comment box below!